Author Archives: James Gorton

About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.

Looking At our Options

Posted on May 20, 2016 by James Gorton

Looking at our options is so important today when we encounter problems in life. Often times we only see one option and that option isn’t comfortable. It’s hard. It’s the worst case scenario. It’s yes or no. We feel boxed … Continue reading →

Posted in Personal mastery, Problem Solving | Tagged Choices, Choosing Wisely, Leprosy, Options | 1 Comment

Branding

Posted on May 19, 2016 by James Gorton

Branding is a popular term in our culture today. Every business is trying to be branded for something. Beer commercials. Geico. Fast food joints. Have it your way. You deserve a break today. You have worked hard. You deserve it. … Continue reading →

Posted in God Relationship | Tagged Branding, Brands, Cowboy boots, Elijah, Tommy Bahama Shirts | Leave a comment

Creating Community

Posted on May 11, 2016 by James Gorton

I shuttle for Airpark Auto Service a couple of times a week. What that means is a glorified bus driver for customers who are dropping their car off to be fixed or have called because their car is fixed and … Continue reading →

Posted in Personal mastery, Relationships in General | Tagged Asking questions, Community, Friendship, Making friends, New friends | Leave a comment

How To Win Friends

Posted on May 9, 2016 by James Gorton

In this day and age of hustle and bustle, building friendships are becoming the exception rather than the rule. People are tied to their phones and/or their computers, and the human touch is becoming a thing that is secondary. Going … Continue reading →

Posted in Parental Relationship, Personal mastery, Relationships in General, Spousal Relationship | Tagged Building frienships, Friendships, Principles of connecting, Validation of others | 4 Comments

Do You Really Believe?

Posted on April 28, 2016 by James Gorton

Jonathan was an interesting character in the Old Testament. He was the son of Saul, the first King of Israel after the country rejected the Judges who had lead that country. He was in the army that Saul formed to … Continue reading →

Posted in God Relationship | Tagged Belief, God's will, prayer, Praying according to God's will, Trust | 1 Comment

Where’s The Power

Posted on April 22, 2016 by James Gorton

Power. Everyone would like some. Some would like more than others. There are a few that would like it all. Some feel like they have all the power. The more people have, the more powerful they feel they are. Power. … Continue reading →

Posted in God Relationship, Personal mastery | Tagged Affecting change, God's power, power | 2 Comments

Truly Rejected

Posted on April 20, 2016 by James Gorton

REJECTION. It happens to all of us. Rejection starts early in life when as a toddler we don’t get the toy we want. We don’t get to touch the stove that is so inviting. We are prevented from going downstairs … Continue reading →

Posted in God Relationship, Personal mastery | Tagged Character building, Life of rejection, Rejection | Leave a comment

Losing Our Signal

Posted on April 14, 2016 by James Gorton

Nadine has been in Colorado this past week visiting her son Greg and his family. She had planned to come back to Scottsdale today on a late flight into Phoenix, but when she heard that my mom had fractured her … Continue reading →

Posted in God Relationship | Tagged Bible, Connected to God, Facetime, Ipad | Leave a comment

Never Give In

Posted on April 13, 2016 by James Gorton

Winston Churchill was visiting Harrow School for boys on October 29, 1941 as WW II was beginning to shape up. He was Prime Minister of England at the time and had been asked to speak to the boys school. He … Continue reading →

Posted in God Relationship, Personal mastery | Tagged Examples, Giving -up, Heros, perseverance, Tenasity, Winston Churchill | Leave a comment

Wise Counsel

Posted on April 12, 2016 by James Gorton

My oldest daughter Deborah (she goes by Debi, but I call her Deborah) and her friend Patty flew in this past weekend for Victoria’s baptism. Both of them live in Chicago and come to Phoenix every chance they get to … Continue reading →

Posted in God Relationship, Personal mastery | Tagged Choosing counselors, Family problems, Wisdom, Wise counsel | Leave a comment