Looking At our Options

Looking at our options is so important today when we encounter problems in life.  Often times we only see one option and that option isn’t comfortable.  It’s hard.  It’s the worst case scenario.  It’s yes or no.  We feel boxed in by the options and get trapped into thinking that there is no other option in life but the negative one.

But what if we opened up our mind and began to look at options that we never thought of before?  What if we could come up with options that had no negative side effect and only an upside to the option?  It’s a no lose option and a total win option.  Nothing to lose and everything to gain approach.

I came across this perspective as I was reading in II Kings in the Old Testament of the bible.  It’s a story about a famine in the land where a city was being besieged by another country and the city had run out of food.  The enemy had cut off all supply lines of food and people were panicking.  The story begins there.  “Now there were four men with leprosy at the entrance of the city gate. They said to each other, “Why stay here until we die? If we say, ‘We’ll go into the city’—the famine is there, and we will die. And if we stay here, we will die. So let’s go over to the camp of the Arameans and surrender. If they spare us, we live; if they kill us, then we die.”” 2 Kings‬ ‭7:3-4‬ ‭NIV  The worst case for the 4 men who had leprosy was that they would die in all their options, so anything better than that option was positive.  They would die in all their options, so any option that brought them food was a win for them.

If we think of the worst case scenario and look at the various options, any option that brings about a positive outcome is a win for us.  If we ask for something and we don’t get it, we haven’t lost anything because we didn’t have it anyway.  But if we ask for something and we get a positive response, we have gained something and come away a winner.  When you set your options in a no lose and everything to gain approach, your whole outlook transforms.

On this journey the no lose everything to gain approach to our options in life opens the door for a truly wonderful life on a daily basis.  Positive options are the road to travel.

About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.
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1 Response to Looking At our Options

  1. Bill says:

    Just what I needed today …

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