Author Archives: James Gorton

About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.

Giving Multiplied


Christmas is a time for giving to those you love. Presents for spouse. Presents for kids. Presents for parents. Everyone knows that. It’s easy to pick out gifts for close friends and family because we know what their likes are. … Continue reading

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Leatherbacks And Jellyfish


Going to Hawaii has always been an oasis from the business of everyday life. There isn’t much to do, so it forces you to lye down on a chase and rest. We had the opportunity to do that a couple … Continue reading

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Passion over Danger


Nadine and I spent some time over in Maui recently and visited the shore around Paia. One of the wonders we saw were wind surfers plying their skills to the ocean waves. It was a beautiful sight as they would … Continue reading

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Bit By Bit


There is an old story of how to get rid of an elephant in the room. The answer comes by taking the elephant out of the room one piece at a time. If we focus on the elephant (or task) … Continue reading

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Having a Deja Vu Moment


I was talking with Deborah, my oldest daughter today and we were chatting about Chicago weather which was 95 degrees with 95% humidity yesterday and a balmy 78 today. She walks to work each day which is about a 3+ … Continue reading

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Proverb: Dealing With Angry People


I had a family who once came in for intensive counseling. They were from the southeast and needed family counseling. One of the prime issues the family was dealing with was the anger the father manifested to the rest of … Continue reading

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Proverbs: Giving Advice


A couple came into my office for counseling a few years back. They were having problems and wanted advice or I assumed they did. They told me their issues. They gave me some background on their history in their marriage. … Continue reading

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