Wise Counsel

My oldest daughter Deborah (she goes by Debi, but I call her Deborah) and her friend Patty flew in this past weekend for Victoria’s baptism.  Both of them live in Chicago and come to Phoenix every chance they get to escape the cold windy city.  But they really come here to connect with Victoria’s two sons, Brayden and Keaton who love both of them to death.  Well, not to death, but you know what I mean.

We had great times of celebration and lots of down time just to talk and connect spiritually and emotionally.  It was Sunday around noon while the three of us were driving to a party that I broached the subject of a perplexing family situation I was dealing with and wanted their input.  I was careful not to break confidentiality as I laid out the problems I was having in setting up what needed to come next with this family.

Both of them are in their middle to late thirties as you can see from the picture I got of them in January when they were at a Super Bowl party routing for the Denver Broncos (Denver won 24-10).  Even though they live in Chicago, Deborah is a die hard Denver Bronco fan as you can see with the Bronco jersey.  Patty is just below her with a football mask.


Deborah has always been my daughter who has come to me for questions she has had regarding school, work, men, etc.   Sunday was different for me as I was asking her and her friend for help in dealing with the dilemma I was wrestling with.  As they began to ask questions, they got more clear perspective as to what was happening and gave me their advice.  I started thinking about it and really began to connect with what they were saying.  It made sense.  A lot of sense.  It was really wise.

It was a transitional moment for me as I realized that my daughter had come full circle and was now offering advice to her dad–me–and I truly appreciated it.  Proverbs is full of passages relating to seeking wise counsel.  “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” (Prov. 15:22)  “Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (Prov. 11:14)  “The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.” (Prov. 12:15)  These are just a few of many verses that talk about seeking wise counsel.

Two of my wise counselors happen to have been right under my family roof and I am richly blessed to tap into their wisdom and knowledge.  On this journey there will be many complex turns that need the advice of wise people.  Choose your advisors wisely.

About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.
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