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About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.

Blame Game

Posted on February 20, 2019 by James Gorton

It is so easy to blame others for their actions that caused us to say something negative or act in a certain unkindly way.  “They were the reason I did such and such.”  “If only they hadn’t acted a certain … Continue reading →

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Wild but Tame

Posted on February 11, 2019 by James Gorton

Sunday was a wonderful day for Nadine and me.  We went to church and heard a fabulous sermon by our senior pastor and afterward headed to Colorado Springs to visit my mom.  Initially when we got to View Point where … Continue reading →

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Addicted

Posted on February 7, 2019 by James Gorton

Nadine and I were at the airport the other night and were ready to fly home to Colorado. We love to be 1 1/2 to 2 hours at the airport before our flight leaves so we aren’t stressed like my … Continue reading →

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Resentment: Part V-Resolution of Resentment

Posted on January 25, 2019 by James Gorton

For some of you, this was a long drawn out jlog that could have easily been solved by telling this in the beginning.  I do think we need to realize that there are various facets of resentment we need to … Continue reading →

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Resentment: Part IV-Wanting Retaliation

Posted on January 24, 2019 by James Gorton

When we have been hurt, our natural tendency is to hurt back.  When we have been punched, we want to punch back.  When we have been criticized, we want to criticize the person who criticized us.  When we have been … Continue reading →

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Resentment: Part III-The Downward Spiral

Posted on January 23, 2019 by James Gorton

There are times when the feeling of helplessness has only one event that can contribute to the feeling of resentment.  There are other times when the event is combined with similar situations that multiply our feeling of helplessness.  I need … Continue reading →

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Resentment: Part II–The Feeling of Helplessness

Posted on January 22, 2019 by James Gorton

Helplessness is not a good feeling.  I remember driving in New Hampshire in the winter time many years ago and came upon a slick patch of pavement.  I had my seatbelt on when a car coming from the opposite direction … Continue reading →

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Resentment: Part I–What Is It

Posted on January 21, 2019 by James Gorton

Resentment is a common emotion that most of us have experienced on this journey of life.  There are many triggers that cause resentment to surface in our lives.  A job we had where we got fired or layed-off for no … Continue reading →

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Rescue Rabbit

Posted on January 16, 2019 by James Gorton

Nadine and I were in our basement watching a very important game.  Patriots vs. Chargers.  Living in New England for seven years causes one to begin to adopt the professional teams in the area (that is if you are a … Continue reading →

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The Greatest Invention

Posted on January 15, 2019 by James Gorton

I grew up in eastern Colorado and did my undergraduate education at the University of Northern Colorado.  In all the years of growing up physically, I always had one thing in my hand when it came to white stuff falling … Continue reading →

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