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About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.

Things Will Get Worse

Posted on February 2, 2014 by James Gorton

We have all been in situations where we call out to the Lord to help us in getting out of the dilemmas we have put ourselves in.  It may be a job that is very stressful and we are asking … Continue reading →

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I Cannot But God. . .

Posted on January 22, 2014 by James Gorton

As I was reading in Genesis this morning, I came across a passage about Joseph that hit me differently than in the past years that I have read it.  Joseph was one of 12 brothers of Jacob.  His birth order … Continue reading →

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Building Resentment Part III: Irrational Choices

Posted on January 20, 2014 by James Gorton

Have you ever been in a situation where your anger got the best of you?  Someone said something to you or did something to you and you went off on them?  Have you been driving and someone cuts you off? … Continue reading →

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Skiing In Flagstaff

Posted on January 19, 2014 by James Gorton

It was 50 degrees in Flagstaff on Saturday and the skiing was wonderful. That man-made snow is the best

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Building Resentment Part II: Misdirected Accusations

Posted on January 17, 2014 by James Gorton

Resentment is a very interesting feeling.  The Merriam-Webster defines resentment as a feeling of indignant displeasure or persistent ill will at something regarded as a wrong, insult, or injury.  It is not one those feelings that come and go, but … Continue reading →

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Building Resentment Part I: The Start

Posted on January 16, 2014 by James Gorton

Have you ever been in a relationship where it seems that resentment between you and another person seems to build over time.  It is always someone you have connection with.  It may be a spouse, or a sibling, or a … Continue reading →

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The Favored One Or The Rejected One

Posted on January 13, 2014 by James Gorton

Have you ever been in a family where you were the favorite son or daughter?  Where it seemed that your mother or father or maybe both doted on you more than your siblings?  It could be that you have experienced … Continue reading →

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Dealing With Fear? You Are Not Alone

Posted on January 9, 2014 by James Gorton

Fear.  Being afraid.  It’s an emotion induced by a perceived threat.  That threat can be anything.  When a stimulus occurs our reaction to that stimulus evokes emotions of fear that cause us to fight or to flight.  Fear causes us … Continue reading →

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Through a Child’s Eye

Posted on January 8, 2014 by James Gorton

Over the past holidays, Victoria and her family came to visit.  During the time they were here, we all decided to go to the Phoenix Children’s Museum.  We loaded up the SUV after the afternoon nap with snacks, plenty of … Continue reading →

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Stalemate

Posted on January 7, 2014 by James Gorton

Over the Christmas holidays, my oldest daughter came from Chicago (-5) to sunny Scottsdale (70) with her dog Tiffany.  Tiffany is a Cavalier King Charles spaniel like Monty, our dog.  They get along fairly well except when it comes to … Continue reading →

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