Wanting To Be In When Out

An interesting thing has been happening at out house the last two weeks.  We started noticing it at the breakfast table when we began hearing a pecking sound that was tickling our ears.  It wasn’t like a woodpecker that sounds like a machine gun.  It was a peck that was infused with silence.  Then another peck.  Silence.  Then another.  It got our attention so we began to look as to what might be inside our house but found nothing.  We looked up at the window just above our front door and found this in the picture.


As you can see just below the light, this bird would sit on the bottom of the window and peck.  He (or she) would then begin to fly from one side of the window to the other seeking a place to enter our house (it would seem to us).  This just didn’t occur for a couple of minutes, but for hours upon hours.  This bird was relentless about wanting to get through the window into what he or she was seeing on the other side.  This experience has gone on for days upon days upon two weeks now.  This bird never gives up.  It wants in and nothing will seemingly stop the quest to go to a place that it isn’t.

I have been reminded because of this bird that we have similar patterns on our journey.  When we were in junior high, we wished to be in high school.  When we got to high school, we wished that we were in college.  When we were 15 we wished for the day when we could drive.  When we began to drive, we wished for our own car and a new car and a newer one.  When we were single, we wished we could be dating.  Dating carried with it similar patterns as we looked for other men or women to date.  As a single, we began to think that being married would be better than our present situation and found out that marriage has its own set of problems.

I could go on and on with the pattern of wishing we were somewhere else or with someone else than our present situations or relationships.  I do believe that if someone is being physically and or emotionally abused, it is important to do something about that relationship and seek the necessary help to alleviate the problem.  But if we are trying to escape a difficult situation or relationship because we think the someone or something on the other side of the glass is nicer, we might want to rethink it.   Our perspective can change when God sheds His perspective on our relationships or on our situation.  He can give us insight as to what He wants us to learn in appreciating our present life.

On this journey we are called to “bloom where we’re planted” so today we can start the blooming process by looking at all the positive things we have in our relationships as well as our situations.  It might give us a whole new world out there to explore and appreciate.

About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.
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