Coyote and Geese

My friend Bill told me a story of his experience playing golf up in Oregon one time that had me laughing in the aisles.  He and 3 other friends were having a grand time on this golf course and were ready to tee off on the 10th tee.  Off in a field next to the tee box was a commotion that caught their eye.  They saw a coyote stalking a flock of Canadian geese that had landed in the grassy field.


As they watched, two large male Canadian geese recognized what was happening and sounded the alarm.  All of the geese flocked together in a pile with the two males stretching their heads way above the others to see where the coyote was and what he was up to.  I’m sure the coyote was very hungry and was thinking duck dinner as he stealthily approached the very alert geese.

A worker with the golf course came up about that time and saw my friend and his buddies staring at the encounter.  He told them that this had been happening all week long with the coyote wanting a duck dinner and told us to watch what had been happening every day that week.

As the coyote crept closer, the two large male geese put their heads down into the grass and began to run at the coyote.  When they got to the coyote, they grabbed onto the coyote and fur began to fly.  Coyote fur!  Now a sidebar…  Canadian geese have transverse serrated ridges on their beaks that when latched onto will not let go.  This coyote was in for a tussle and finally got loose from these two male geese and fled for the hills.  Mind you, this encounter had happening to this coyote several times earlier in the week.  The coyote kept doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.

How many times do we find ourselves doing or saying the same things in relationships only to get the same results that are less than satisfying.  This could relate to our connections with our children or lack thereof.  If we don’t listen to the things that we do to sever the connection with our children, we will continue to get less than satisfactory responses from them.  How about friends?  How about a spousal relationship?  This principle not only relates to relationships, but to other things in life.  For example, I hate to admit this, but I have gotten more than one speeding ticket in my lifetime because I kept doing the same thing over and over expecting different results.

On this journey we can be like the coyote that kept doing the same thing over and over, or we can seek advice and wisdom to do life over.  Going to the source of life can be a transforming experience.

About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.
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