Process of forgiveness: Part I–Everyone Sins

We live in a society where taking responsibility for mistakes is becoming obsolete.  How many people go to the courts and admit wrong.  Ninety-five Percent of people showing up before a judge will plead not guilty to what they have been charged with.  It is a sham as people want to get out of admitting fault and seeking ways to avoid the consequences of their destructive ways.

There are two kinds of mistakes that I am talking about.  The first one involves mistakes we make against God.  The bible defines these mistakes as sin.  Sin can be defined as either actively or passively going against what God wants us to do.  We may know what He wants and choose to actively go against His wishes, or we may not know what He wants and do and choose to do our own thing without knowing what He wants.  Either way, we are choosing our own path versus seeking His guidance.

The second kind of mistake involves choices against someone we know and have had interaction with.  It may be something we have said that wasn’t healthy or something we did, or even an unhealthy attitude.  Anything what causes us to be disconnected with another person is defined as sin.

Solomon, one of the wisest persons to have walked the earth, became King of Israel thousands of years ago.  When he first became King he wrote about this whole process of forgiveness so that those under his leadership would heed his advice and stay away from environments that involve disconnection from the Lord or from one another.  In this passage, I see 5 parts that are essential for experiencing forgiveness from the Lord and from one another.

The first part involves the recognition that everyone makes mistakes in their life.  Everyone sins.  Solomon is talking to the Lord when he says, “When they sin against you—for there is no one who does not sin. . .”—(2 Chronicles 6:36-39 NIV)

In order for us to experience forgiveness from the Lord or from one another, we need to recognize our contribution to the disconnection we are experiencing from Him or from one another.  John in the New Testament writes in I John 1:8, “If we say we have not sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. . .”  It’s easy to point out the flaws in others and blame others for our present circumstances, but much more difficult to look at our own mistakes and admit our contribution to the problems and the disconnects with the Lord or with others.

Later in the Book of John, Jesus was confronted with a situation in which the religious leaders of the day caught a woman in the process of committing adultery.  They brought her before Jesus to see what he would do with her.  In those days, it was the custom to stone such a person to death.  After pressing him for an answer, he responded by saying, “He who is without sin cast the first stone.”  One by one beginning with the oldest they walked away.  Jesus was making the point of not pointing out the sins of others  when all of us need to take care of our own sins.

On this journey, for you to truly be healed in your relationships with God or with those you truly love on this earth, the first step when your are disconnected from them is to admit your inadequacy and mistakes–your sin.

About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.
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2 Responses to Process of forgiveness: Part I–Everyone Sins

  1. Delena Sinclair says:

    Hello Jim,
    I know you don’t remember me, but my husband and I used to see you and your late wife back in early 2002. We were a military couple stationed in Phoenix and we were very broken. Through God’s grace and your wise counseling during our crisis phase we’ve made is through the storm and we’ll be celebrating 25 years this summer! Just wanted to let you know that we haven’t forgotten! Thank you!
    Delena and Wayne Sinclair

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