Family Ties

Saturday June 18, 2011

On Thursday morning, I got on a plane to Colorado to pick up my son Carter who was finishing lacrosse camp at Air Force Academy and spend the weekend with my family. I had lined up a mid size car from Priceline to be picked up at the Denver Airport. I asked the reservation attendant if the location to pick up the car was at the airport and two times they said yes. When I got to the rental site, they didn’t have me in the system and after looking at my confirmation number, they had me picking up the car in downtown Denver, 50 miles from the airport. They were all sold out of the car I wanted, but had a brand new suburban for rent. I didn’t want to go back to the airport and try to find another car, so I signed for the suburban gas guzzler and headed off to Seibert, my hometown to see my mom and my son.

In thinking about my dilemma I had a choice of where I put my perspective. I could focus on all the money that I am going to spend on the rental car in terms of gas, taxes, and daily costs of the suburban. That was in fact the perspective I had driving on the two-hour ride. The perspective quickly changed as I drove into the driveway. I was greeted with a big hug from Carter and then from my 92+ year old, sharp as a tack, in shape, master bridge playing mother. All thoughts of the money I would be spending evaporated as we interacted and caught up on what had been happening in our lives. This perspective further intensified as we drove to Colorado Springs and connected with my sister and her husband, along with her son, daugher, and kids. I was immersed in wonderful conversation and with kids who wanted to see their Uncle Jim.

When is all said and done on this earth, the only thing that will be left is relationships–our relationship with God and our relationship with others. That’s why when Jesus was asked about the greatest commandment, He responded by saying two. “He answered, “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'” (Luke 10:27). It is easy to get our minds onto stuff and problems that pull our minds away from the most important things in life–relationships.

On your journey this summer, don’t forget to keep your focus on the real things of life. I’ve got to go. Carter just plopped down on the bed and is hungry and wants me to fix him a couple of sunny-side up eggs. Enjoy the journey.

About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.
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1 Response to Family Ties

  1. Pam Hessel says:

    Isn’t it great that we have choices? We can choose to look at situations as opportunities v.s. “time sapping” problems. Your jlog helps me focus on the important things —- relationships!! Great to have you here!

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