Son’s at Homecoming


Thursday, September 29, 2011

This last weekend my son and future step son went to the Desert Mountain High School Homecoming dance and took two wonderful ladies.

Carter took a long time friend out to Cheesecake Factory and then to the dance.  He is wearing a size 13 shoe and is now taller than his father.

My future step son, Tyler also went to the Homecoming dance and wore a similar outfit but in tourquoise.

Tyler is 15 and had a great time with his girlfriend at the homecoming dance.  Tyler and Carter are great friends and are both looking forward to the future families connecting into one.  You can also see that I am looking forward to having these two families unite into one family on December 17, 2011.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Cursed And Blessed


Wednesday September 28, 2011

One of my favorite passages that I have memorized in the old testament comes from Jeremiah 17 which deals with those who are cursed and those who are blessed. The Lord set up a definition for us to evaluate our life by and to see if we are in the cursed ranks or in the blessed ranks. He says, “Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the Lord. That person will be like a bush in the wastelands; they will not see prosperity when it comes. They will dwell in the parched places of the desert, in a salt land where no one lives. God says that there are three things that the cursed do. The first thing is that they trust in man and look to man for answers rather than to the Lord. They secondly look to the strength of man to solve problems and their heart turns away from the Lord. I think it is interesting to note that the cursed will live in the desert and will NOT see when prosperity comes. They at times will be prosperous, but they will not see it. They will feel alone and isolated from the world.

God contrasts those who are cursed with those who are blessed when He continues, “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.” (Jeremiah 17:5-8 NIV). Individuals who are blessed are ones that trust in the Lord and have confidence in God’s ability to direct their lives. I like the illustration of a tree planted by streams of water (God’s word) which give a picture of someone who is strong, not by their own strength, but by sending their roots deep into the word of God. There will be times of trials and drought as it says, but even in the drought times there will be green leaves and fruit will be produced.

On this journey, it is sometimes beneficial to see whether or not we are experiencing the effects of a cursed life or a blessed life. The consequences are evident based on the choices we make in placing our root system.

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Boasting, The Good Kind


Tuesday September 27, 2011

I’m sure that when you saw the topic if this jlog, you were a bit skeptical to read that there is a good kind of boasting. We all know of someone in our life that has been a braggart. I do not like to be around that kind of person because they only like to talk about themselves and rarely ask you any questions about yourself. There are various kinds of boasting, none of which is enjoyable to be around. There are those who seem to be know it alls and have an opinion about everything and believe that their opinion is right on anything that comes out of their mouth. I have gone to the gym on a fairly consistent basis and see certain individuals that have obvious muscle strength in certain parts of their bodies and they dress in such a way so as to show off their strong parts. Living in Scottsdale, there are those who have wealth and like to flaunt their wealth by the stuff they buy or the cars they drive or the way they dress.

It would seem that reading this previous paragraph that I am looking at all the people that boast and don’t put myself in any of the three categories. The problem with that assumption is that I am tempted to boast and it isn’t pretty to write this jlog and have to experience conviction from the Holy Spirit. There are times in my life where I was boasting about something where I put myself in one or more categories above. The Lord talks about boasting and says there is only one kind of boasting that is good. “Let not the wise boast of their wisdom or the strong boast of their strength or the rich boast of their riches, but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they have the understanding to know me, that I am the Lord, who exercises kindness, justice and righteousness on earth, for in these I delight,” declares the Lord.
(Jeremiah 9:23, 24 NIV). Boasting in the things I know, or the strength I have or the stuff I own is destructive boasting. Only when we boast about our desire to know God who exercises kindness, justice, and righteousness is boasting positive. Recognizing that the only reason we have wisdom or strength or stuff is the basis for God to come along side us and fill us with the very things that He is known for. When we recognize that He is the author of all the good and perfect gifts, it is then that He begins to exercise those gifts in through His children.

On this journey, be careful in your boasting to boast about the one who has power to transform your life, attitudes and your actions.

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Two Sins


Monday September 26, 2011

Fresh water is so refreshing on a hot day. Especially cold clear flowing water. The first time I went up Montezumas Well north of Camp Verde it was a very hot day. It seemed like 105 even in the higher elevation of Camp Verde. We parked our car and walked up a narrow path to an overlook of Lake that is formed by the two springs. Over a million gallons of water come from the springs daily and the water is used for irrigation. Although you wouldn’t want to drink from most springs until they are filtered, it was definitely a wonderful feeling to get our throats quenched by the cool water we saw.

God was speaking to the Israelite nation and to us when He talked about two sins that the nation of Israel and we have committed. He says, “My people have committed two sins: They have forsaken me, the spring of living water, and have dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water. (Jeremiah 2:13 NIV). God describes Himself as living water that we are free to drink from, but the sin that we have committed is forsaking or rejecting the living water. In the new testament, Jesus in John was speaking to the Samaratan woman and talked about this living water. “If you knew the gift of God and who it is that asks you for a drink, you would have asked him and he would have given you living water.” Jesus answered, “Everyone who drinks this water will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life.” (John 4:10, 13, 14 NIV) The first sin is that of turning our back on God and the living water He is able to provide.

The second sin He defines is that of digging our own cisterns the have holes in them and can’t hold water. Cisterns were dug out places that would catch rain water that could be used for various things. The problem with cistern water is that it was dirty and didn’t smell the best. What God was concerned about is that we had turned away from a him and had begun to trust in our skills and our selves to handle our own problems rather than turning to Him to give us the living water.

On this journey, it is sometimes easier to turn to ourselves and our made made cisterns to fix our problem. But are we really fixing our selves and our problems or are we just making matters worse by relying on ourselves rather than experiencing the living water that our Lord wants to freely give us?

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What We Trust In


Friday September 23, 2011

All of you reading this jlog remember 10+ years ago on that fateful day when the twin towers in New York collapsed. It was a very dark time tor the United States and we were all changed in some way. We had all trusted in our defense systems to prevent such things from occurring and yet they happened. I think some of our being stunned was being vulnerable to being attacked on our own soil. I was planning to have my Bostonian friend fly in that day and we were going to drive up to Flagstaff, AZ to play in a week long golf tournament. As the reports began coming in, they grounded all planes in all U S. cities and declared a no fly zone anywhere in American soil. The planes came from Boston that bombed the twin towers so I didn’t know if my friend was okay until he called me and said that his plane was diverted to St. Louis where he stayed that week.

Until that fateful day we had trust in our government to protect us from our enemies. The whole nation was shocked and outraged that extremists who hate the United States could infiltrate our borders and reek such destruction and loss of lives. Our trust in our government to keep us safe was shaken. Just this last weekend two Arizona Republic reporters went to the football game in Washington D. C., walked into the stadium without so much as a stop from security to check who they were or what they were doing. They both were questioning of security measures at the stadium that would allow two people to come into the stadium without being stopped and searched. Where is the trust?

For Isaiah, he dealt with this issue of who or what to trust when he said, “Woe to those who go down to Egypt for help, who rely on horses, who trust in the multitude of their chariots and in the great strength of their horsemen, but do not look to the Holy One of Israel, or seek help from the Lord. Yet he too is wise and can bring disaster; he does not take back his words. He will rise up against that wicked nation, against those who help evildoers. But the Egyptians are mere mortals and not God; their horses are flesh and not spirit. When the Lord stretches out his hand, those who help will stumble, those who are helped will fall; all will perish together. (Isaiah 31:1-3 NIV). Isaiah was saying that the only person that you could trust for guidance, direction, security, and victory is the God of Israel. Our horses under the hood can’t be trusted as they will eventually break down. Our friends and neighbors will fail us at times. Our strength will fail us, especially as we grow older. It’s only as we trust the Lord will we gain strength and experience victory in our lives

On this journey be careful where you put your trust.

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Sins No More


Thursday September 22, 2011

There is a terrible thing I have to admit and very few people know about this, not even my mother, but here it goes. I was five years old and my dad took me to Flagler, CO, a town 11 miles west of Seibert to get some groceries. I still remember the store and especially the candy shelves under the check out counter–they only had one because it was such a small grocery store. Dad was checking out and I was eyeing a seven-up candy bar ($.10 to be exact). I didn’t ask dad to buy it, but I snuck it in my pocket and walked out without paying for it. I felt so guilty because I had never done anything like that before. The stolen candy bar was like poison to my soul and I could hardly wait to get home. As soon as I got out of the car, I ran next door where the neighbor lady was standing and I gave her the candy bar and told her to give it to her kids. The guilt was unbearable. Every night for the next three weeks, I put a paper on my desk and asked God to write on it telling me what to do. I asked forgiveness every night, but never knew whether God had forgiven me or not because of the guilt I experienced. Needless to say I never stole like that again, a lesson learned.

What I learned later in life is that God does in fact forgives us of our sins if we confess them to Him. He has made forgiveness available to us for any and all sins, but in order for us to actualized that forgiveness we need to confess or recognize that what we did was wrong and bring it before Him (I John 1:9). I ran across a passage in Isaiah that puts a greater perspective on our sins. He (God) says, “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more. (Isaiah 43:25 NIV). Not only does He forgive us of our sins, but when He forgives us of our sins, He remembers them no more. NO MORE!!!!!! He doesn’t remember the candy bar that I stole over 55 years ago and if you have asked forgiveness for your sins, He doesn’t remember your sins either. NO MORE!!!! He wants us to respond to others that come to us and ask forgiveness in the same way that He forgives us (Ephesians 4:32). If they ask for forgiveness, we are to forgive them and remember their sins no more. NO MORE!!!! So the phrase “I will forgive you but I will never forget” is contrary to how God forgives us and how He wants us to forgive others. HE REMEMBERS THEM NO MORE.

On this journey it is so healthy to cut away all the baggage of the past sin and run the race that is set before us.

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Roots And Fruits


Wednesday September 21, 2011

I remember ss a little child wanting to plant a garden. Everyone in the little town of Seibert, Colorado seemed to be into gardening and I with my sister would sit on the back steps of our old house and eat tomatoes picked off the vines with lots of salt. I can still taste those red ripe tomatoes. When I was old enough to be apart of the process, my mom and dad let me do the planting. Before we could plant, we had to dig up the soil and break up the clods of dirt including picking out the weeds we had turned over before we could plant the seeds. We planted corn, beans, carrots, peas (I hated peas and could care less about planting peas), cucumbers, and watermelon. As a child, I thought that when I went out the next day, I would see the plants start peeking up through the soil. No such luck. Not the next day or the next or the next. I didn’t realize it at the time, but the roots had to begin to grow in order for the plant to grow. Without roots, the plant would have no way to nourish itself with water and nutrients and would never grow. The underneath the soil growth was critical for the above the soil growth to occur.

As I was reading in Isaiah, I saw this principle when he says, “Once more a remnant of the kingdom of Judah will take root below and bear fruit above.” (Isaiah 37:31 NIV). How many of us would love to see fruit being produced in our lives but we often become impatient with the process of God wanting to work first on our root system. You see the root system of our lives are qualities in our lives that are developed through trials and problems we experience every day (James 1:2-4). We live in a society where we want instant fruit. Instant money (credit cards). Instant relationships (match.com). Instant stuff (loans). We have gotten away from having to work for something and saving up before we get our desired thing. What Isaiah is saying is that true fruit and growth takes time and it starts internally with in us where no one sees. What is God seeking to develop in your root system for future growth and fruit? Are you being patient in allowing this root system to truly take root so that you can see fruit being developed upward?

On this journey, fruit is an outgrowth of the internal structures that have been allowed to develop in the quiet times and alone times of your life. Take the necessary time to allow your root system to grow to support the fruit you want to see being produced in your life.

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A Consuming Fire


Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Fire is an interesting thing. We use it to burn trash and weeds. We use it to cook our food. We use is to warm ourselves on a cold night in the fireplace. We use it to roast marsh mellows, make some mores, and grill steaks. It is used to sit around and tell scary stories. It is used to refine precious metals in burning out the impurities to cause the metal to become more refined and more beautiful. Fire is also destructive as has been witnessed when it burns thousands of acres of forest. It is devastating when it starts up in a house and burns it to the ground.

In the bible fire is also been a tool that God has used to refine those who are His. This has been communicated by Isaiah when he said, “Who of us can dwell with the consuming fire? Who of us can dwell with everlasting burning?” Those who walk righteously and speak what is right, who reject gain from extortion and keep their hands from accepting bribes, who stop their ears against plots of murder and shut their eyes against contemplating evil— they are the ones who will dwell on the heights, whose refuge will be the mountain fortress. Their bread will be supplied,
and water will not fail them. (Isaiah 33:14-16 NIV) He uses the term “consuming” and “everlasting burning” to communicate a continual process of refinement for our personal lives. It would be nice to take a break from the burning away of stuff in our lives that are destructive and detrimental to connecting with the Lord. Isaiah describes individuals who can experience the consuming fire of the Lord and continue to walk with Him. As you look at these characteristics of “speaking what is right,” “rejecting gain from extortion,” and “shutting your eyes to doing evil.” These are characteristics of those who walk on the heights with the Lord and experience His guidance and direction.

It means that we need to be willing to allow the Godly fire to burn away our pride, our selfishness, our sinful desires, and allow His to take control in our lives. On this journey, make sure you are exposing yourself to the consuming and everlasting burning.

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Entering New Phase of Life


Monday September 19, 2011

Well, it’s been awhile since I wrote in my jlog. There are times in life when an event happens that changes ones life. Graduating from high school and entering the world of being away from parents seems to be one of those life-changing experiences. When you are single and you meet that very special person that you want to spend the rest of your life with is another life-changing experience. Choosing to have a baby or choosing to adopt a baby or two or three would be considered one of those experiences. These are positive life-changing experiences, but there are also negative experiences such as having a relationship go south or having a spouse die or a child die would be considered life-changing experiences.

For me the last three weeks have counted as a life-changing experience as I have entered into a new relationship with a very special person that I have asked to marry me and she fortunately said yes. Her name is Nadine and we have chosen to have a Christmas wedding as we are having her three children (two boys and a girl) and my three children (two girls and a boy) be with us as we share our vows before God and in the presence of our family members. Here is a picture of Nadine when we went to Norfolk to have her meet my two daughters a couple of months ago.
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Our wedding date is December 17, 2011 and we are planning for just a family gathering and sometime in January 2012 we will have a reception for our family and friends.  There are so many things that have happened that this is truly a God directed thing.

I am going to get back to jlogging which I love, but wanted you to know what had been happening to the lack of posts in the last three weeks.  Continue to be faithful in walking on this journey with our Savior.

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Crust Breaker


Friday September 2, 2011

When I was in high school, I worked on a large dry wheat farm in the summer. My mom would pack me a frozen tunafish sandwich, some ripply chips, a couple of cookies, and a drink for lunch, I would drive 8-10 miles to the fields and fill the propane tanks of the tractor. After firing it up, I would begin the long day of breaking the crust of the ground with the crust breaker, or dig deeper in the dirt with the one way plows. The purpose of each implement was to get rid of the weeds growing in the dirt so that we could plant wheat in the fall and wait until the next spring and summer to harvest the wheat. We would do this a couple of times before the seeder would be pulled into the field to put down wheat seed. Plowing the field was only for the purpose of getting rid of the weeds and preparing the soil for accepting the seeds that would be our future crop.

In Isaiah I read a passage about plowing. “When a farmer plows for planting, does he plow continually? Does he keep on breaking up and working the soil? When he has leveled the surface, does he not sow caraway and scatter cumin? Does he not plant wheat in its place, barley in its plot, and spelt in its field?” (Isaiah 28:24, 25 NIV). At first glance it doesn’t mean much but when you have been farming it makes a lot of sense. The purpose of farming is not to cut down the weeds. The purpose of farming is not to see fields completely clean or have smooth tilled soil. The purpose of farming is to produce a crop that can help you pay bills and produce food for you and others. If you are continually plowing you will never have a crop. In our personal lives, what is our purpose in life? Are we continually preparing ourselves for something and have little to show for it? Could it be that we resemble the saying of Tagore, an Indian philosopher who said, “I spent my days stringing and unstringing my instrument, while the song I came to sing remains unsung.” Plowing a field is important for planting a crop in the same way that we need to prepare for the purpose that God has us here on earth. We just need to be careful that we are not putting too much energy in getting ready and more energy in carrying out our destiny.

On this journey, make sure that you are putting energy in your purpose in life and not in preparing the soil only.

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