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About James Gorton

I am happily married to Nadine, a person I've known for 20+ years. She and her late husband owned Airpark Auto Service where I took my car for years. Four years after my wife died we began dating and the rest is history. We have a blended family of 6 children between us and love visiting them across this country. We recently had our third grandchild between us. We love to hike, bike and ski. I am a psychologist and do relational life coaching for marriages and families primarily. I love what I do and never get tired of seeing marriages and families move to more healthy places in their lives. Five years ago my oldest daughter Deborah encouraged me to begin writing my thought into a blog I call my Jlog (Jim's log). I have become more and more passionate in connecting everyday experiences to spiritual truths. I hope that as you read my Jlog, you will gain insight into your personal life and experience true growth in your personal and relational life.

The Old Stories


On the road from Sante Fe, NM to Taos, NM, Nadine and I passed some old vehicles that we just had to stop and photograph. I wonder the old stories that this Fire Truck could tell if it only could … Continue reading

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Assumption Versus Reality


I have driven the road from Phoenix to Flagstaff to Albuquerque and then up to Colorado Springs numerous times over the 32+ years.  It was in 1985 that we moved to Scottsdale and have gone back to my roots regularly … Continue reading

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Keeping The Traditions Alive


Traditions in family life are very important.  Traditions in the family create the foundations for legacies to be built for future generations.  I began a tradition about thirty-five years ago when I had a scavenger hunt for my oldest child … Continue reading

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Giving Up Bad Habits


Bad Habits are hard to break.  Smoking.  Drinking.  Eating sweets.  Outbursts of anger.  Swearing.  Pornography.  Speeding.  Running red lights.  California stops.  Unhealthy relationships.  Biting nails.  Negative thinking.  Gossip.  Cutting others down.  Sarcasm.  I could go on and on about bad … Continue reading

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Surprise in the Canyon


While we were in New Mexico, we decided to investigate the Rio Grande Gorge bridge.  The scenery around Taos, NM is filled with sagebrush.  Miles and miles of sagebrush.  The landscape is flat with–have I said it–sagebrush.  But outside of … Continue reading

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The Greatest Human Value


Nadine and I had a special week this past week.   It started about two months ago when we got a call from one of her 4 other sisters.  Irene got on the phone and indicated to Nadine that Al, … Continue reading

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Knowing Your Limitations


I grew up with a father that could fix anything.  I mean anything.  A broken washing machine?  He could fix it.  Need laminate on a counter?  He could do it.  Put wall tile on and finish it.  It was done. … Continue reading

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My Plan VS God’s Plan


  There are problems that come our way in which we have the resources to fix the problem and continue to move on.  Those kind of problems are easy because we don’t need anyone to solve the problem, but we … Continue reading

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Choosing Our Coaches


I love to coach.  Ever since I can remember I wanted to be coach when I grew up.  Even as I am writing this jlog, I am reminded of my father who coached the little league in our town.  When … Continue reading

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Stubborness: Part II It’s Effects


Every choice has a consequence.  When we talk about consequences we most often think of the negative consequences.  But there are positive consequences to positive choices.  For instance, if I choose to drive the speed limit the positive consequence is … Continue reading

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